Good OL’ Life Test

I had an eventful and interesting Sunday. I was faced with a Test. This was no ordinary test!

There was no paper or pencils involved, just people!

There was no study guide to prepare me, just feelings!

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I don’t do well with surprise Test! & what I mean by that is I dont handle them well. I use the wrong emotions and actions when dealing with things I do not have the answers to or when dealing with things that are complex and requires strategy & procedure over a quick “yes” or “no”, “1,2,3” type of response. These Test make me nervous; I feel a lot of pressure when I am surprised by them! & then when my answers to the Test do not fit or work I become angry!

I do not see myself as an angry person, but over the years I found I hold a lot of anger. It would be easy to point the blame and say this and that caused me to be so angry, but that does me (or anyone else) no good & it is not 100% accurate! The fact of the matter is I have held onto anger & allowed myself to say “it is okay to be angry because someone hurt me or someone did me wrong”.  For years I made an excuse for myself to be angry & while I didn’t allow it to show on the outside it has slowly been eating away at me. & then when I have been faced with something I was not prepared for, I turned to the wrong emotions & reactions!

There is a point to this…haha..

I was faced with a Test yesterday; the test is similar in many ways to those I have faced before! I am not going to sit here and tell you everything changed, something clicked and I handled everything perfectly and I passed this test with flying colors!

I did do better!

I began to handle this Test with the same response I have always used. I began to respond with built up heated emotions… I mean who told this Test to come today anyways? As I said, I always find a way to justify….

But then I reverted! I didn’t have some type of deep realization about my inner self or nothing like that; I just stopped! I knew very well that the outcome is never good when my actions are from a bad place. I mean history has shown me that.

I have to take be willing to take these test and learning experiences rather than attacks! & to do that I have to change my response to them! It wont happen over night & it will not be easy, but I will get there!

 

“To create more positive results in your life, replace ‘if only’ with ‘next time’.”

 

Gender Specific Toys and Play

One of the many classes I am taking this semester  is Gender Psychology. There are many gender related topics, such as: Transgender, body language, pay gaps among men and women; sexual harassment in the work place, gender roles & so much more!

We have been asked to post our “favorite” gender topic or a topic we want to learn about this semester. My choice was Toys and Play/Gender specific toys. This is not a new topic to me; I have heard and thought a lot about this topic, but there is a lot to learn and consider. This topic hits close to home for me for a few reasons.

While reviewing the topic, I found myself falling into this loop and conforming with  Gender specific Toys; I did not do this intentionally! It is society, marketing and how we are raised that brings us into this closed loop idea! A lot of times we don’t think twice about the toys we purchase.

When you shop for your daughter, nephew, son or niece, what do you buy? Do the girls get dolls, kitchen/cooking sets and a lot of pink? Do they boys get trucks, trains, and footballs? Can the girls play with the football and the boys play with the dolls? Should we make an effort to purchase Gender neutral toys?

I will not go into detail with my thoughts and opinions! I will say that there are many factors when talking about children and how they learn and grow and play is a BIG part of their development!

I am curious what you all think. Does it matter what children play with? Does play as a child have any affect of who they become as adults? Can your daughter play with trucks and your son play with the cooking set? Can one do it and not the other? Do you believe we need to incorporate more neutral toys to provide better balance and eliminate perceived gender roles?

 

I plan to  have a full paper with hours and hours of research on this topic soon! 🙂

I would like to know what you all think as well. I want to see all side of this controversial issue!

Motivation Monday – Dr. King Inspired.

In honor of today being Martin Luther King Jr. Day, I thought I would locate one of my favorite quotes and post it.

I came across this quote my Freshman year in High-school. I was working on a Black History Month presentation; My teacher assigned who we would do the projects over.

I spent many hours working on this project; I was fascinated by everything I was learning about Dr. King. Yes, we learned about Dr. King as little kids & growing up throughout school, never in great detail! We were taught the basics, we were provided general information. When I worked on this project I wanted to REALLY include his work. I wanted to talk about the good he was doing, but the hate he receive.

I came across this quote and thought that this is exactly what has been happening for so long. We choose to fight Hate with Hate!

Look where that has gotten us!

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Let Dr. King motivate you! Let him motivate you to stand up for your beliefs. Let him motivate you to help your community. Let him motivate you to Love!

Love is the only force capable of transforming an enemy into friend.” – MLK

 

 

 

School Ramblings

My 1st semester at a University starts Tuesday. For some reason I find myself pretty nervous about the change! It is not like this is my rodeo in College; I spent almost 4 years at a Junior college working towards my degree. (Details on that click HERE.)

I don’t know why I have this fear of attending the University. Maybe its the work load. Could it be that different? Maybe it is the professors. I have heard they are much more strict. Or maybe its the fact that I am working towards another 2 year goal. Maybe I am just worrying myself for no reason.

I feel like a kid again, starting a new school year. On one level I am exciting classes are starting back up; I am excited to LEARN new things and become that much closer to my Bachelors degree. And then on some other level, school is starting & I have to find time to study, do homework, take tests & those same things that make starting school exciting also make me nervous!

But I know all I can do is take each day as it comes to me!

 

 

Bad Mother of the Year Award…??? LOL

This week I experienced a moment of embarrassment. Embarrassment within myself.  It is my own fault and I am fully carrying the blame!  Many of you will look at this post and laugh, but I am writing this in all seriousness- well for the most part! 🙂

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Personally I like just about all music; I am a big fan of R&B, but I also listen to a lot of Rap and Country music and there are occasional Rock and Pop songs I find enjoyable! There are a lot of songs (doesn’t matter the genre) that are not really appropriate for children to sing or even listen to. A lot of today’s music is based on relationships, heartbreak, money, drugs, sex, cars and more foolishness, yet we LOVE them so much. Growing up I thought that Rap music was the only genre that made this type of music..Rap music was the gateway music, LOL! But that’s not true at all!

For example: Luke Bryan’s song “Home Alone tonight”, I absolutely love the song and this song really is not explicit. But do you want your toddler/child singing, “Shot for shot for shot ’til we forgot what we came here to forget” or how about “Send it to my ex, I’ll send it to my ex and send ’em both a text. Saying we ain’t we ain’t going home alone tonight.” I sure know I do NOT! 9 times out of 10 your child will not even know what they are saying, but the point is, you do!

So what happened to me the other day did not make me feel like “Mommy of the Year!” 😦

 

Driving home, I turned the radio to one of the local Hip Hop/R&B stations and a song called “Say It” by Tory Lanez came on. This is a song that I really like, so I turn the music up a bit and start singing along. I soon noticed that I hear something that sounded like singing as well. My 15 month old child is in the backseat singing the hook “Youuuuuuu know, Youuuuuuu know, Youuuuuuu know!”

Yes it only 2 words: ‘You know’, there is no harm in that…. right? WRONG!

I just immediately cut the radio off!! I was in shock!

Now as I mentioned this is my own fault. Kenzy is very smart! Yes all parents say that about their babies, hehehe- Let them 🙂  But she has grasped on to her ABC’s very well & has learned many other songs from daycare, like Twinkle Little Star, Row your Boat & others. Also she is improving on her numbers & we are working more on her Spanish at home. So I knew her little mind grabbed onto songs pretty well! I guess I just didn’t think she heard the “other” music, my music enough to started learning the hooks!

Anywho, its is safe to say we no longer listen to the radio in the car. We now listen to one of Kenzy’s personalized CD’s full of fun kid songs! 🙂   YAYYYYY MEEE!   I am just going to keep saying YAYYYY MEEEE!!!

One of my co-workers did bring up a good point- what happens when she is with someone else and listening to their choice of music?

I though about it a bit. I know I can not shelter Kenzy from everything, especially music. So I am not going to try to!

 

 

 

Christmas Shoot

Recently my job held an incentive and I actually won a Nikon 300! This was a PERFECT win for me, because I am trying to improve on the quality of photos I take of my daughter.

Our 1st photo-shoot was Christmas themed.

One of the things you will notice in these photos are location. I much rather take outdoor photos because I can be more creative and open with the background. However it was pretty chilly around the time of this shoot so I had to make do with what was available to me.

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Started off with Kenzy hiding her face from me!

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Until she decided to no longer hide her face from me! 🙂

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She had a little dance party of her own!

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She could not mask her excitement.

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Eventually she made her way into the tissue paper!

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Yea she thought that was cool!

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Soon she became tired of taking photos & I had to steal one when I could!

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But with smiles like this, she can take pictures anywhere she would like to! 🙂

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This photo isn’t from the same shoot, but I couldn’t resist!!

In relation to Brand Representation the quality of these photos are pretty good. What could be better and what many shops require are white or 1 color backgrounds that do not take away from the image. There are some shops who love outside photos with the background of trees or even the playground. As long as it doesn’t take from the photo and the product it will usually qualify for a good Brand Rep photo. One other thing to look out for are shadows. Shadows can be distracting. There are maybe 2 or 3 photos here with obvious shadows.

 

Instagram Profiles:

  • @Kenzy.Michelle (Brand Rep account)
  • @Preloved_goodies_kmw (Preloved items account)
  • @chellyyyyyann_ (My personal account)

 

*Photographs are taken by me unless stated other wise. Please do not re-post pictures without permission.

Let Us Inspire, Love, and Support – The #GirlLove Challenge

I was recently nominated for the #GirlLove Challenge by  Yecheilyah over at “Pearls before Swine.” Thank you very very much for the nomination! 🙂

I always feel really honored when someone nominates me for a blog award! I feel this way because I do not believe that I break out of my shell and connect with many other bloggers on WordPress and my level or skill at writing could be much better. So to still be noticed and presented with any nomination feels really good. 🙂    This would be the 1st I have heard of #GirlLove nomination/challenge, but  I did read up a bit to get a better understanding of the movement; I must say I absolutely love it!

I have been out of High school for about 4 years & I see more hate among women now compared to high school. In high school I always excused what I saw as “young women” not fully conscience of their actions or stilling growing into their identity; I cant make up an excuse for what I see now. Simply, woman choose to break other woman down because they feel threatened or like another women is competition. It should never be that way! Woman are strong, fierce, smart Beings – could you imagine Our world if Women used those skills to praise, build and support one another? Could you imagine the new level respect women would receive and feel!?

Before I get carried away, I will list  the women I choose to nominate for the #Girllove Challenge:

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When I first started my blog, I stumbled across hers &  it immediately caught my eye. Her intentions for writing her blog & her daring actions at standing out in life made me look at myself with a different set of eyes. Her post make me want to try things I’ve been reserved about!

My Name is Elizabeth

This is another blog I came across when I first started mine a little over a year ago. I was drawn to Elizabeth’s blog because of her personal, diverse post about culture & race. The subjects she chooses to talk about are sometimes very controversial, but she navigates her words and thoughts with such ease and honesty. She writes beautifully! Also when reading her BIO last year, I learned that she studied Psychology. This particularly interested me at that time because of a school decision I was dealing with!

Loud Thoughts Voiced Out

I located this blog in the community pool I believe sometime early last year. I find that a lot of her post are easy to relate to. They are either things I have felt, thought or dealt with before. I especially enjoy reading her random entries. Some of them are inspirational, funny, simple, & relevant. You cant help but feel like you know her a little more after reading a few!

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I know the rules state to nominate 5 people, but unfortunately I don’t have 5 to nominate. (The women I have nominated may find it strange I nominated them, because of our lack of communication- so I apologize for that now.)

Also I follow many other women bloggers who are amazing writers, composers, artist and more.

All of these women inspire me in one way or another; whether its related to blogging/writing, school or real life experiences.

Here’s what you do for the #GirlLove Challenge:

  1. Tell your followers who inspire you, a famous woman who may be dealing with negativity on a daily basis. 
  2. Tell your followers who inspire you in real life, a woman you always interact with.
  3. Tag five women bloggers who you love. Compliment them and tell them why you love them, and comment under their latest post with the link to your #GirlLove post!

 

Even if you do not blog, make video post, or anything related to social media,please take the time to show your love and support for another Woman. #GirlLove

 

 

Its just a Plan

Photo from quotesblog.net

If your anything like me you are probably halfway through the Alphabet, working on plan “L “or “M”! haha 🙂

As time has progressed and my original plan “A” turned into “B” which eventually lead to “C” and so on! I had to learn to stop getting discouraged when things changed! In this life we live nothing is guaranteed;  Life if not perfect and flawless! The plans we make are just that: plans – “an intention or decision about what one is going to do.” (Google)

Plans are not necessarily meant to be set in stone; I now view plans as more of an outline of a long term or short term goal with wiggle room!

Having to alter your plan because life has thrown a curve ball or because you have a change in heart does not mean you have been defeated or that you have given up. It simply means you have had to adapt and find another way to accomplish your goals!

So stay positive, stay strong and stay cool! 🙂

 

 

 

***Photos/quotes used in this blog post are not mine/created by me, unless I state otherwise. I locate these on Google image and post what appeals to me that day.***

Mini Update

I have been beyond slacking with my post lately.  I am going to blame it on the Holidays and having a toddler! 🙂

This will be a quick post, because I realized I have not done any “updates” on the whole working out, weightless, lets try this again faze!

Well, to the point, I am down only 5 pounds since I started about a month ago. There is not routine. I work out moderately twice a week, maybe. I walk everyday, very slow pace and usually with my daughter. Also I eat what I please! I haven’t changed my eating habits, except for cutting out on sodas. I still drink sodas, but I have greatly limited my intake.

So what have I changed???? Really I have mostly changed my soda intake! That is the only constant thing. I work out more, but as I  mentioned there is no routine.

I understand that “fitness” is like 80% nutrition and 20% workouts. (Or something along those line.) That’s all fine and dandy, but honestly I am not about changing WHAT I eat, but I can modify HOW I eat. Hope that makes since. I’ll explain better in a different post soon!

This week I have kicked it up a notch on the work outs. I start the 30day ab challenge tonight. It is nothing too fancy, but I need to make the work outs more intense in order to see more than 5 pounds fall off in 4 weeks. Yes, yes… I know if I changed what I ate I would have better results…ehh, but I’m not really feeling that! haha!

That’s all for now…. I’ll be back soon! 🙂