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Gender Specific Toys and Play

One of the many classes I am taking this semester  is Gender Psychology. There are many gender related topics, such as: Transgender, body language, pay gaps among men and women; sexual harassment in the work place, gender roles & so much more!

We have been asked to post our “favorite” gender topic or a topic we want to learn about this semester. My choice was Toys and Play/Gender specific toys. This is not a new topic to me; I have heard and thought a lot about this topic, but there is a lot to learn and consider. This topic hits close to home for me for a few reasons.

While reviewing the topic, I found myself falling into this loop and conforming with  Gender specific Toys; I did not do this intentionally! It is society, marketing and how we are raised that brings us into this closed loop idea! A lot of times we don’t think twice about the toys we purchase.

When you shop for your daughter, nephew, son or niece, what do you buy? Do the girls get dolls, kitchen/cooking sets and a lot of pink? Do they boys get trucks, trains, and footballs? Can the girls play with the football and the boys play with the dolls? Should we make an effort to purchase Gender neutral toys?

I will not go into detail with my thoughts and opinions! I will say that there are many factors when talking about children and how they learn and grow and play is a BIG part of their development!

I am curious what you all think. Does it matter what children play with? Does play as a child have any affect of who they become as adults? Can your daughter play with trucks and your son play with the cooking set? Can one do it and not the other? Do you believe we need to incorporate more neutral toys to provide better balance and eliminate perceived gender roles?

 

I plan to  have a full paper with hours and hours of research on this topic soon! 🙂

I would like to know what you all think as well. I want to see all side of this controversial issue!

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Graduation Time

Around roughly 10am on Friday, December 11th, I walked across the stage with about 100 other students to receive my Associates Degree of Arts in Psychology.

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I believe that most people associate graduations with BIG achievements or even milestones. When I moved to Texas I noticed that every time you changed “levels” (for lack of a better word) there would be a graduation ceremony. For example Kindergarten to 1st grade would have one; 5th grade to 6th grade would have one; 8th grade to 9th grade would have one; and then of course  12th grade seniors would have the most anticipated graduation ceremony!

I don’t think there is anything wrong with these celebrations! We should let the children/young adults know we are proud of them for doing well in school.

So why is it as the time lead up to my graduation, this year, I lacked excitement!? Instead I compared myself to others who were receiving their Bachelors Degree or even their Masters. I was really beating myself up because I have been in school about 4 years- just as long as someone receiving their Bachelors degree, yet I was not. I felt like I was so far behind and I was just receiving a consolation prize or something! I constantly belittled myself and felt like I had accomplished nothing. As I look back I was being very ungrateful; I can see that now.

I had to really look at everything I have been through while being enrolled in school; I had to consider changing my major right at the very end, working full time and becoming a mother during the Fall Semester last year (2014). I had to stop being so hard on myself! I am not trying to create excuses; I know there are people who have had to overcome more hardships than I could even imagine!

So yea, by now I expected to be enrolled in TJC’s Dental Hygiene program and working towards my Associates, possibly Bachelors (I knew that program was coming soon). But that is not the path I went down & instead of dwelling on what has not gone as I planned, I needed to realize how very blessed I am for having the opportunity to walk the stage and receive my Associate Degree! I have family and friends that have been supportive since day 1; after having my daughter the support continued! Not everyone has that type of support system and love!

I realized that Friday was the 1st step towards many more accomplishments. I have many more goals to achieve & I am sure that will come with obstacles. But it is all possible.

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Whats next for me?

Well, I plan to head over to the local University in my town to receive my Bachelors in Psychology. I start class on 01/18/16. I have not completely decided what I want to do in this field, but I am leaning towards forensic or counseling Psychology!

“Don’t let the fear of the time it will take to accomplish something stand in the way of your doing it. The time will pass anyway; we might just as well put that passing time to the best possible use.”

-Earl Nightingale

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Spankings? Right or Wrong?

It has been a while since I’ve posted anything; this is not because I lack things to say, but because I have failed at making time to say them. This post will be sort of all over the place; I apologize in advance for that.
Over the past few months things have been forever changing in my life. Two big events took place over the past few months, my daughters 1st birthday and my sudden change in Majors/career path. A lot of people do not understand my emotions for having to change my major; I have been dead set on what I wanted to do since I was in 10th grade & then next thing you know I had to reevaluate my choices. (That story is for another day.)
I am in a class called Sociology – Marriage and Family; the course is fairly interesting and we seem to always have engaging discussions of very different topics. Recently one of the discussions was over spankings. I realize this is a very controversial issue. The discussion left me questioning my decisions in how I disciplining my daughter. Although I may be judged I would like to share where I have stood on this situation for a while. (Please keep in mind, as I research and study more about human behavior I am a little perplexed with my current decisions!)
My daughter is only 1; I believe this is an age way too young for a spanking, which I read is defined as a swat on the bottom with an open hand. That is not generally how I would define a spanking. My definition was created from my childhood experiences. If Kenzy is to misbehave she is generally told “No No,” “stop,” or anything along those lines. I try to explain to her why she should stop or why she can’t mess with something in the best way I know how to a 1 year old! However there have been times I would pop her hand if her misbehavior was constant or she could potentially hurt herself. If I was to pop her hand, it’s just hard enough to get her attention and then I tell her why she was popped. (Not that she really listens.) I understand there are some people that may believe I am ruining my child because of my methods to discipline.
I would really love the opinion of other parents and grandparents on spankings. Are we expressing that we love our children less? Are we confusing them by using a physical form of punishment? Is punishment not the object when I child misbehaves constantly? Should we be focusing on reinforcement, reinforcing the good behavior of the misbehaved behavior? Are parents not reinforcing good behavior with the use of punishment or spankings?
Sure there are all types of studies provided from psychologist and other researchers regarding this matter, but I would like the opinions & ‘what worked best for you’ stories. I understand this is a touchy subject for most, but being open and honest helps everyone evolve