Are you dancing in the Rain?

It’s not Monday, but motivation is good any day- right?!

Do you find yourself dwelling on all the negative things you have encountered in life?

Are you allowing the storm to cloud your outcome, your growth?

 

We have to be willing to take control of our lives especially when things seem out of control! There will always be bad days;  you can also bet that you will experience a day worse than the bad once you had last week. Its about how you handle the unpleasant things & how you deal with the obstacle(s).

I know we would all like to pop out that easy button & just skip to all the joyous, fun, & easy times in life.

BUT in order for us to grow we need to sit through that storm; we need to embrace the rain, we need not to fear the thunder. In order for us to grow & blossom into who we are suppose to be we must dance in the rain!

 

10 day Smoothie Challenge

I recently participated in the JJ Smith’s Green Smoothie challenge. I honestly dont know why I do these things anymore.

I participated in the modified challenge/cleanse, so I only drank 2 smoothies a day & ate 1 healthy meal. You are allowed to snack on veggies and some fruits in between while practicing self control.

I was pretty nervous about the taste of the smoothies, but I actually enjoyed most of them & even walked away with a favorite flavor & runner up! 🙂

I didn’t drop a whahhpping 15 pounds or nothing amazing like that, but I am down 4 pounds…

That’s a start people!!

Aside from this week (because we are moving) I have been hitting the gym 2-4 times a week. I am either participating in class called XFit or  I am working out on my own, but using a lot of what I learned in XFit!

Its gonna be difficult missing the gym this week as well as coming off the cleanse. Once we get settled in I plan to give it one more go & see if I can loose 5 pounds instead of 4!! #goals haha 🙂

Anyone give it a try? If so, did you enjoy your results??

Easter Art

Hey everyone it has been a while since I have posted anything. Once again Motherhood and school has consumed all of my time!

I just thought I would share a little arts and crafts product Kenzy and I completed yesterday.

I seen the Easter Bunny idea circulating on my Facebook news feed so thought we would give it a try.

Here are the materials we used:

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  1. Cotton balls
  2. 1 Paper plate
  3. 2 photos of Kenzy ( 1 photo would work just as well)
  4. Glue
  5. Construction paper (which I pre-cut, please excuse the uneven mess)
  6.  Makers ( this was if we did not use the photos)

 

  1. So I went ahead and pre-cut the body and ears also I glued the pictures to the paper plate. 2. Next, I  glued the body and ears to the the plate. ( Older children probably would not have a problem doing that own their own.) 3. I placed glue on the body 1st and gave her hand full of cotton balls, which she basically threw at the bunny. We did this until the body, face and ears were pretty much covered!

 

Creating….

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The Kenzy Bunny!

This was a fun little activity which took me about 15 minutes to  prep and about an 45 minutes to an hour of fun!

 

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Just in case you werre wondering what happened with the Marker….. Here ya go! 🙂

Good OL’ Life Test

I had an eventful and interesting Sunday. I was faced with a Test. This was no ordinary test!

There was no paper or pencils involved, just people!

There was no study guide to prepare me, just feelings!

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I don’t do well with surprise Test! & what I mean by that is I dont handle them well. I use the wrong emotions and actions when dealing with things I do not have the answers to or when dealing with things that are complex and requires strategy & procedure over a quick “yes” or “no”, “1,2,3” type of response. These Test make me nervous; I feel a lot of pressure when I am surprised by them! & then when my answers to the Test do not fit or work I become angry!

I do not see myself as an angry person, but over the years I found I hold a lot of anger. It would be easy to point the blame and say this and that caused me to be so angry, but that does me (or anyone else) no good & it is not 100% accurate! The fact of the matter is I have held onto anger & allowed myself to say “it is okay to be angry because someone hurt me or someone did me wrong”.  For years I made an excuse for myself to be angry & while I didn’t allow it to show on the outside it has slowly been eating away at me. & then when I have been faced with something I was not prepared for, I turned to the wrong emotions & reactions!

There is a point to this…haha..

I was faced with a Test yesterday; the test is similar in many ways to those I have faced before! I am not going to sit here and tell you everything changed, something clicked and I handled everything perfectly and I passed this test with flying colors!

I did do better!

I began to handle this Test with the same response I have always used. I began to respond with built up heated emotions… I mean who told this Test to come today anyways? As I said, I always find a way to justify….

But then I reverted! I didn’t have some type of deep realization about my inner self or nothing like that; I just stopped! I knew very well that the outcome is never good when my actions are from a bad place. I mean history has shown me that.

I have to take be willing to take these test and learning experiences rather than attacks! & to do that I have to change my response to them! It wont happen over night & it will not be easy, but I will get there!

 

“To create more positive results in your life, replace ‘if only’ with ‘next time’.”

 

Gender Specific Toys and Play

One of the many classes I am taking this semester  is Gender Psychology. There are many gender related topics, such as: Transgender, body language, pay gaps among men and women; sexual harassment in the work place, gender roles & so much more!

We have been asked to post our “favorite” gender topic or a topic we want to learn about this semester. My choice was Toys and Play/Gender specific toys. This is not a new topic to me; I have heard and thought a lot about this topic, but there is a lot to learn and consider. This topic hits close to home for me for a few reasons.

While reviewing the topic, I found myself falling into this loop and conforming with  Gender specific Toys; I did not do this intentionally! It is society, marketing and how we are raised that brings us into this closed loop idea! A lot of times we don’t think twice about the toys we purchase.

When you shop for your daughter, nephew, son or niece, what do you buy? Do the girls get dolls, kitchen/cooking sets and a lot of pink? Do they boys get trucks, trains, and footballs? Can the girls play with the football and the boys play with the dolls? Should we make an effort to purchase Gender neutral toys?

I will not go into detail with my thoughts and opinions! I will say that there are many factors when talking about children and how they learn and grow and play is a BIG part of their development!

I am curious what you all think. Does it matter what children play with? Does play as a child have any affect of who they become as adults? Can your daughter play with trucks and your son play with the cooking set? Can one do it and not the other? Do you believe we need to incorporate more neutral toys to provide better balance and eliminate perceived gender roles?

 

I plan to  have a full paper with hours and hours of research on this topic soon! 🙂

I would like to know what you all think as well. I want to see all side of this controversial issue!

Motivation Monday – Dr. King Inspired.

In honor of today being Martin Luther King Jr. Day, I thought I would locate one of my favorite quotes and post it.

I came across this quote my Freshman year in High-school. I was working on a Black History Month presentation; My teacher assigned who we would do the projects over.

I spent many hours working on this project; I was fascinated by everything I was learning about Dr. King. Yes, we learned about Dr. King as little kids & growing up throughout school, never in great detail! We were taught the basics, we were provided general information. When I worked on this project I wanted to REALLY include his work. I wanted to talk about the good he was doing, but the hate he receive.

I came across this quote and thought that this is exactly what has been happening for so long. We choose to fight Hate with Hate!

Look where that has gotten us!

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Let Dr. King motivate you! Let him motivate you to stand up for your beliefs. Let him motivate you to help your community. Let him motivate you to Love!

Love is the only force capable of transforming an enemy into friend.” – MLK

 

 

 

School Ramblings

My 1st semester at a University starts Tuesday. For some reason I find myself pretty nervous about the change! It is not like this is my rodeo in College; I spent almost 4 years at a Junior college working towards my degree. (Details on that click HERE.)

I don’t know why I have this fear of attending the University. Maybe its the work load. Could it be that different? Maybe it is the professors. I have heard they are much more strict. Or maybe its the fact that I am working towards another 2 year goal. Maybe I am just worrying myself for no reason.

I feel like a kid again, starting a new school year. On one level I am exciting classes are starting back up; I am excited to LEARN new things and become that much closer to my Bachelors degree. And then on some other level, school is starting & I have to find time to study, do homework, take tests & those same things that make starting school exciting also make me nervous!

But I know all I can do is take each day as it comes to me!

 

 

Bad Mother of the Year Award…??? LOL

This week I experienced a moment of embarrassment. Embarrassment within myself.  It is my own fault and I am fully carrying the blame!  Many of you will look at this post and laugh, but I am writing this in all seriousness- well for the most part! 🙂

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Personally I like just about all music; I am a big fan of R&B, but I also listen to a lot of Rap and Country music and there are occasional Rock and Pop songs I find enjoyable! There are a lot of songs (doesn’t matter the genre) that are not really appropriate for children to sing or even listen to. A lot of today’s music is based on relationships, heartbreak, money, drugs, sex, cars and more foolishness, yet we LOVE them so much. Growing up I thought that Rap music was the only genre that made this type of music..Rap music was the gateway music, LOL! But that’s not true at all!

For example: Luke Bryan’s song “Home Alone tonight”, I absolutely love the song and this song really is not explicit. But do you want your toddler/child singing, “Shot for shot for shot ’til we forgot what we came here to forget” or how about “Send it to my ex, I’ll send it to my ex and send ’em both a text. Saying we ain’t we ain’t going home alone tonight.” I sure know I do NOT! 9 times out of 10 your child will not even know what they are saying, but the point is, you do!

So what happened to me the other day did not make me feel like “Mommy of the Year!” 😦

 

Driving home, I turned the radio to one of the local Hip Hop/R&B stations and a song called “Say It” by Tory Lanez came on. This is a song that I really like, so I turn the music up a bit and start singing along. I soon noticed that I hear something that sounded like singing as well. My 15 month old child is in the backseat singing the hook “Youuuuuuu know, Youuuuuuu know, Youuuuuuu know!”

Yes it only 2 words: ‘You know’, there is no harm in that…. right? WRONG!

I just immediately cut the radio off!! I was in shock!

Now as I mentioned this is my own fault. Kenzy is very smart! Yes all parents say that about their babies, hehehe- Let them 🙂  But she has grasped on to her ABC’s very well & has learned many other songs from daycare, like Twinkle Little Star, Row your Boat & others. Also she is improving on her numbers & we are working more on her Spanish at home. So I knew her little mind grabbed onto songs pretty well! I guess I just didn’t think she heard the “other” music, my music enough to started learning the hooks!

Anywho, its is safe to say we no longer listen to the radio in the car. We now listen to one of Kenzy’s personalized CD’s full of fun kid songs! 🙂   YAYYYYY MEEE!   I am just going to keep saying YAYYYY MEEEE!!!

One of my co-workers did bring up a good point- what happens when she is with someone else and listening to their choice of music?

I though about it a bit. I know I can not shelter Kenzy from everything, especially music. So I am not going to try to!